The cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,
for children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.
I have a parenting secret. One that I know will bring judgement and would cause my pediatrician to keel over in shock.
I still hold my baby for most of her naps. It started when she was an infant. The path to our baby was too long and full of too many hoops to let her go. Then, she got a little older. When she showed herself to be quite the night owl, I poured over books on sleep and the takeaway was that sleep begets sleep. So we did everything possible during the day to ensure a well slept, but not overslept baby. She slept best in our arms, so we held her. Then, she got a little older. I like getting us out of the house, and filled our days with play groups, story time, and simple errands. The easy way to ensure a happy, social, cheerful baby was to make sure she napped well. And, well, see above for how she sleeps best. Then, she got a little older. And I made peace with it.
When we’re out or on a walk, she’ll sleep in the car seat, the stroller, or a carrier, so it never holds us back. When we’re home, there’s nothing else I’d rather do. I feel her ever-changing weight in my arms. Look to see how far her legs are extending now. Watch her lips make the faux sucking motions. When people compliment her long, beautiful eyelashes, my first thought is always, “I watched them grow in, nap after nap.”
My sister says that there’s nothing better than having a baby fall asleep on you. And she’s almost right. But the one thing better is when that baby wakes up, stretches, and gives you the sweetest smile when she realizes where she is. The cleaning and scrubbing can definitely wait.