Dear DMV Lady, Bank of America Manager & OBGYN Scheduler**,
I know what you’re thinking. You’re not even hiding it well. I see the quick glance to my 3rd trimester belly when I tell you that I have a new last name and need to update my records. I can hear the ever so subtle increase in pitch when you say the word “Congratulations”…turning it *just barely* from a statement into a question.
No, I wasn’t accidentally knocked up. And no, I wasn’t pressured into a shotgun wedding to convince everyone that the baby was conceived on the wedding night while praying that no one really did the math.
All I did was take on the last name of my partner of 6.5 yeas so our child’s name will match both our last names. It’s a simple way to present ourselves as a family, when that may not be completely clear otherwise. And it will hopefully make life just a touch easier now that either of us can take her to the doctor, or preschool, or whatever, without having to explain relationships or get questioned about mismatched last names. Ironic that while more and more straight, married women are choosing to retain their own last names (largely due to marriages and babies happening later in life, after a woman’s career is well established), we find that the traditional way makes the most sense for our untraditional little family. 🙂
**Also applies to every other instance where I have to change my name or explain why my debit card is in one name while my records are in another.